Cheating Spouses Caught On Tape
Cheating And Technology – A Dangerous But Titillating Combination by Levine Lovelace
Remember that old eighties movie, Sex, Lies & Videotape? Talk about a concept that was way ahead of its time! In the 1989 independent film directed by Steven Soderbergh, women openly discuss their sexual lives while being taped. And surprise, surprise, it comes back to haunt them. Fast forward to 2010, and the ways that both men and women can sexually incriminate themselves is endless.
Texting, “Sex”ting, Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Flip video cameras, camcorders, cell phones, webcams… our dating lives and sexual lives are out there for public consumption, and people are growing numb to the potentially damaging personal and professional risks, especially those who are bold enough to use these tools to carry on an affair behind their spouse’s back.
Things like sexually explicit text messages, sexy emails, videotaped sex romps, naked photographs and flirtatious Facebook wall postings can really spell trouble when these racy communications take place between two people who are having an affair. Long gone is the need to sneak adulterous phone calls on the house phone when no one else is home, to mail stealth love letters or to see the person with whom you are having an affair in all of their nude splendor only when you can manage a clandestine motel meeting. And though married people who are cheating on their husbands or wives know that they are taking a heavy risk by indulging in high tech sex, the cheating parties just can’t seem to help themselves.
So why do men and women who cheat on their spouses or significant others feel the need to leave a raunchy trail of evidence behind them? Some experts claim that this ups the risk ante for cheaters, further adding to the rush of excitement people get from carrying on marital infidelity. Others assert that people who are likely to cheat or have an adulterous affair are narcissists by nature and this sort of 21st century exhibitionism appeals to their egos. Much like the ongoing trend of celebrity sex tapes that “accidentally” get leaked to the press, the very same psychology could be at work for regular Joe’s. The feigned plea for privacy while simultaneously putting your dirty business out there for the world to see, it seems to be a common pathology these days, especially when it comes to the personality type that is prone to having an affair or thinking about cheating.
In essence, many of these communication devices are so easily accessible that nowadays any wife, or husband for that matter, can be their own private investigator, and those who cheat on their spouse or significant other are sometimes passive aggressively confessing to cheating, secretly hoping to get caught.
Sometimes A Cheating spouse wants out of their current marriage or relationship and getting caught with their pants down is their opening to end the relationship. Other times cheating and leaving signs in one’s cell phone or email account is a cry for help or attention from their inattentive spouse. And still, other technology savvy cheaters are in it for revenge, at least according to websites like CheatConfession.com where many “cheat confessions” cite retaliation as the main motivation for such obvious behavior. Other cheaters simply underestimate their spouse’s sleuth-like abilities to crack their password codes, lurk around their social networking pages or dig up incriminating images. It might behoove cheaters to keep it old school and skip the sexy emails, sexts, pictures and suggestive wall postings. As far as cheating itself is concerned, for most of these people the horse has left the stable.
About the Author
Levine focuses on relationships in her writing: specifically infidelity. She is a regular contributor to websites like cheatconfession.com
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